I tend to get myself in situations where I am going and going and going! When I begin a project, class, organization or job I tend to go full force. I move so fast and get so much accomplished that I frequently find myself in a situation where I suddenly find I am hitting my head against a wall, exhausted, burnt out and finally realizing that I have not bothered to listen to my spirit or body to know what I am needing at the moment.
STOP!!!!!! I have recently began a new practice. I stop. Genius isn’t it? This is not very difficult or complicated and I am not sure why it took so long to figure out but it did. I stop, every day. I ask myself what I need. Sometimes I need to meditate, do yoga, chat with a friend, play a mindless game on my phone, journal, blog…whatever. I listen to what I need and I do it for at least 30 minutes. It is amazing how useful this can be for me. A simple 30 minutes of not tasking. The interesting thing is that when I take that time to do what I need to do I end up being more productive with my tasks and I don’t end up in the burn out zone.
When I got married my aunt gave me a blessing of “Make time for hot chocolate”. My husband and I have been pretty good at practicing that in our relationship and during my last burn ou
t I realized that I do not do the same for myself. So I thought I would share this with you. Make time for hot chocolate.
It can be difficult to make time for self-care. There are so many things that are waiting to be done, laundry, dishes, paying bills, cleaning, cooking, shopping, kids homework, sleep, exercise, write an e-mail, social media, mow the lawn, return a call….. IS THE LIST EVER DONE!!!!????? Sometimes we get in the mindset that self-care has to be some big grandiose event. It does not. Light a candle, sit for 5 minutes and have a cup of tea, take a bubble bath, breath, write a gratitude list, go for a walk, wear a special article of clothing, make a special “alter” in your home, paint your nails, go to bed early, write a poem. All these things can be self-care. The important thing isn’t what you are doing but the intention with which you do it.
Build in time in your life where you do things for you. Follow your passions, feed your soul a little bit every day. There will always be time for the tasks we “have to” do and we will always have to make time for the things we want to do. Give yourself the gift of relaxation and enjoyment. There is not time like the present. Make time for hot chocolate!