HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!
So, do you have a plan for this new year. Are you looking for a new beginning?
This is the time of year when everyone is making resolutions to do something different. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really work that way. To make a real change in your life more needs to happen than just making a resolution. Let’s talk about this. Let’s figure out how to set you up for success. Really the success is waiting right around the corner for you. Whether you are interested in starting something new or stopping something old we are going to go through some tools to help you succeed with transforming your life.
Whatever it is you are embarking on it is important to understand how you got where you are and any underlying issues that have contributed to the manifestation of this particular issue. Know that through healing what is injured within you, you can begin to make changes in the areas that are effected by that injury.
When I am quitting something or beginning something new this is a process that I created that works really well for me. I answered all these questions on paper and took pictures with my phone so that I always had the answers with me in case I needed to look at the answers to remind myself why I was doing this.
Why quit/Why start? – Ask yourself why. Why would embarking on this be a good idea. How would following through with this help you reach your goals or live the life you want to live?
When I stop doing this thing or start doing this new thing, what will I have that I don’t have now? – What freedoms or joy will I gain? I ask myself what I will gain in all areas of my life. I want to really paint a big beautiful picture of the many wonderful things you will gain through making this change in your life.
What am I releasing that no longer serves me? – This is so important. So often the thing that needs to be released is an old story or old trauma. Sometimes this can be as simple as making the decision to release this “old” thing sometimes there is real work for healing that needs to be done. Here you can start to name the things that you need to release in order to be successful in your endeavor. If you are plagued by shaming self-talk then work on releasing shaming self-talk and start healing what has created that dynamic in your life in the first place.
What am I claiming – THIS IS THE BEST PART! What are you claiming!? What things are you inviting into your life that are being blocked by doing/not doing this particular thing. There can be overlap between this list and the “What will I have?” list but this list should definitely be longer and full of inspiring words that name what you are claiming.
What can I do or do instead? – If you are giving something up it is important to replace it with something else. Look at the list of things you will gain from giving this thing up. When you would usually partake in the thing you are giving up, instead do something that helps you progress towards the things that you are claiming. Whether working on giving up something or beginning something new it is always important to set yourself up for success. If you are deciding to quit eating sugar don’t go to a bakery. If you want to start going to the gym daily be sure to schedule it and schedule it for a time when you will be able to go. If you are not a morning person don’t commit to going to the gym early in the morning. Ask yourself “what things can I do that will make it easier for me follow through with this decision?”
Affirmations – I create affirmations that speak to the mental, physical and spiritual aspects of the change I am making. When I am having a difficult time with something it can be useful to use these affirmations in conjunction with tools that I am gaining through following through with all the above questions.
Is this easy? Sometimes but frequently not. Can you do it? Yes! This is more than a resolution. This is you making a decision to change your life to create the reality that you want. You can make the decision anytime it does not take a new year. Sometimes you may have a setback. This is not a failure. You can start again anytime you want. Really, every day you have the opportunity to make a choice. What are you choosing today? What is your resolve?