Lately I have noticed that all my blogs are intertwined. I have written about making boundaries, loving yourself, healing the inner child, looking at cleaning up your side of the street among other things. There is so much to write about these topics and so many perspectives from which to view them. Today I again want to talk about looking within, but this time I want to talk to you about looking within in order to find your own wisdom. Recently someone asked me if there were any books or YouTube videos I could recommend that would fix their issues and problems. Nope, sorry, there are no simple fixes to healing.
Don’t get me wrong, there are many books, teachers and videos that can inspire you and spark a flame with in. These things do not heal you. You heal you. My most influential teacher is Alisa Starkweather and going through her program Priestess Path (a women’s mystery school) has helped me grow into the person I am. Through my interactions with her and going through the process of her program I was given the opportunity to learn tools and models to integrate into my healing. She is an amazing facilitator but I had to do the healing. I had to look at my beauty and my ugly, my present, past and future, my dishonesty and my shortcomings; only through doing this was I able to heal.
Yes, find a teacher, a life coach, a therapist, these people can help you process your healing, they can help point out healing that needs to take place. Remember, when it comes down to it, it is only you who can heal you.
Make the choice – Decide you are ready to change your life. Healing will change your perspective, change your story and
change your dynamics with yourself and others. Making this choice means you no longer accept excuses from yourself, you let go of limiting thinking that hinders your progress and you take one step at a time towards your future.
Allow the fear and release it – Is this scary? YES!!!!! Anytime we step out of our comfort zone it is scary. This is the fear that stops us from healing and stops us from changing. Remember there is always choice. Take one step forward, take one step back and then take a step forward again. Ask yourself, is it worth walking through this fear in order to get to your healing? If it is worth it (I always think it is) then allow yourself to feel the fear and keep walking forward anyway. After walking through your fear you find your truest self.
Be committed to your process – As I stated above you may take one step forward and one step back but keep stepping anyway. There are times along the road where a lot of your issues get stirred up and you may find yourself acting out on behaviors that do not serve your greatest good, keep going. All the gunk may be getting stirred up, this can serve to show you what needs to be cleaned up. This is a sign you are heading in the right direction.
Own your stuff – Ok, this can be a touchy area. If you were abused, I am not saying to own that. I am saying that it is up to you, to heal from the abuse. Sometimes victims get stuck in the abuse paradigm, waiting for the abuser to heal you is not beneficial. The abuser may make amends or go away but it is still your job to take care of yourself and give yourself the healing you deserve.
More owning your stuff – frequently because of our past we develop coping mechanisms and behaviors which are detrimental to ourselves and people in our lives. Own your stuff, admit where you are wrong, look at changing behaviors in order to live a happier life.
Heal – This is where the real change comes. Looking at your past, the reality of what has happened and how it has affected you is where you shift the things that are limiting you and holding you back.
I get that this is easier said than done. I have cried countless tears though healing and there have been times where I have stopped dead in my tracks not wanting to take one more step forward on the journey. Then I remember that I am responsible for my future and off I go again. This is your path, your map and your choice. As you go through your healing process and you look with in you will find that under all stuff that was needing healing your wisdom has been waiting there for you all along. This is your journey, head in the direction of your wise one.